Growing years

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"Who is this old man?Is he your grandpa?He looks smart.But, he looks intelligent.
Where did you loose the last factor down the line?"


"Enough man.This is not my grandpa."


"Then?"


"It is Sigmund Freud."


"You mean ,your friend's grandpa?"


"No.He is the Father of Psychoanalysis."


"What a wierd name to have.Psychoanalysis.Where does this person live?"


"Hey,it's not a person.It's a medical term."


"I see.
They are big words that go over my head.Be more simple."


"Okay.Okay.He is the person who gave us the theory of five stages of development in every person's life."


"What five stages?I want to know.
But, please make it short and simple.I am not a medical freak."


"All right.Here are the five stages:

1.The oral stage:

This is in the first two years of life. Mouth is the main pleasure  zone. Now,greatest source of pleasure is sucking or putting objects into mouth.














2.The anal stage:

This is from two to three years. The anus becomes the 
main source of pleasure. Toilet-training is the major issue now.

3.The phallic stage:

This is from ages three to six. Self-manipulation of the genitals gives max. pleasure.

4.The latency stage:
This stage is from ages six to twelve. Now, sexual motivation is lost and a child gets busy developing personal skills

5.The genital stage:
It occurs after puberty and extends into adulthood.Now, the deepest feelings of pleasure come from sexual relationships with other adults.

Essence:

Development places conflicts for a person at every stage, that must be resolved then and there.

If these conflicts are left unresolved, there will be dramatic effects influencing an individual’s behavior throughout his/her life."


"Hey, that was short and hot.I have to leave now.Catch you later.Bye"

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What do you think of these pictures?

What do you see in them?

Beauty

What is beauty?
Beauty is a very relative term.What is beauty to you maybe ugly to me.
It all depends on the personality and mood of the person.

Something that seems beautiful to you today may not seem as beautiful tomorrow.
(I am not speaking about your spouse. Believe me.)

Okay.Then you will say,something that seems beautiful to many people may seem beautiful to us.for example: Taj Mahal,

Aishwarya Rai (hey,hey,i can see you smile!)

But, how intensely a man may feel about her beauty may not be felt by a woman(play of hormones ,you see!)

Then what survives the test.Feelings!

Right feeling at the right time to do the right thing.

                                             Many of us saw pictures and videos of the plight of people in Haiti ,after the earthquakes changed their lives forever.

A few of us were there physically, to help.

Many of us helped by funding the rescue organizations which helped those people.

Few of us could not help monetarily,so, the best we could do, was to pray and wish for their goodwill and speedy recovery.

But, in all these groups of people there is no-one who has not felt the need and beauty of a timely help.
The thought of a timely help by someone or the lack of it, in some juncture in our lives,brings tears to our eyes.

What can be more beautiful ?Can anything else by just the thought of it,bring tears to your eyes?

Yes, there are a few of such beautiful abstract feelings which do.

These delicate feelings are what connect all of us as human beings,in whichever part of the globe we are.

So,please do your part in keeping the world as beautiful as it can be.

Octopus fun!

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Sing in the rain

Drop by drop you drench me rain.
You are a delicate pain.

All my childhood I spent with you.
All my dreams I weaved with you.

What beauty? What grandeur?
Your incessant .You inspire.

You help to bloom a flower,
You fill a flowing river.

You pour down a shower
and hug me till I shiver.

Come come and stay with me.
Pitter,patter you sing with me.

You are my best friend.
Then,now and till the end.

Smile

A smile is contagious.
So contagoius that if you look into a person's eyes and smile ,the person may not even know you.
But,the person will smile back at you.
What magic?It works.Try it.

I

Hey,hey,wait I have a word of caution for you.
Be careful at whom you smile.don't smile at any Tom,Dick and Hary or Reema,Seema or Mary and come back with complaints that the reaction was very different(The boys would'nt do that.I know. They are more forbearing in these matters.)

There is a saying guys:"a smile is a small curve that sets many things right."

Once when i had gone shopping to the grocer's, it was quite late.I was in a hurry and after I had picked all that I wanted,I went to bill it.

Lo and behold!There was a looong queue.I would have to wait for looong time for billing .Obviously, the queue was also very looong,you see!

I saw that there was another cashier counter.
So,I asked the man at the other counter,"Sir, why is this counter closed?Everyone is crowding at the other one."

The man at the counter said,"We work on shift and my shift finished a half-hour before.I am leaving now."

I requested the man,"Will you take my bill?My children will be waiting at home and I am getting very late.

Then, I flashed a smile.Mind you!I flashed a smile.

Believe me .It worked, the man agreed.

I can hear some of you saying"I don't beleive it"

"Why?",

I hear my conscience again,"Cause the last time you did it the crowd left you just short of being beaten."

Forget the conscience. Believe me.

I paid up the bill soon afterwards and left homewards.

"What?You again?No.No.I did'nt pay a single penny extra.I just tipped him for his good nature."

Especially,when the smile is on
 Brittany's face.Right?

See,a smile is so pleasing.

So, the moral of the story :"a small smile goes a long mile."
My new quote.he...he...

Have a nice day guys!

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Once a rich,city-bred man saw a person in humble clothes, sitting outside a shrine,silently for long.


At the end of an hour , a monk from within the shrine served food to the person.


The man was intrigued by these happenings.He believed that everyone should be worth the food he eats.
He could contain himself no more.
Quick to react, he asked the monk ,"Does this person outside do any work at the shrine?"


"No",said the monk.


The man became angry."Then why do you feed him free of cost.You must be stupid to do so."


The monk listened to him patiently and said, "Watch the person till nightfall and tell me what you feel?"


So,the man positioned himself at a distance from that person and watched him till nightfall.
During the day,he tried to talk to the person but,received no reply.


The man was infuriated."I am such a big man in society.There are hundreds of people waiting for my appointment. No-one dares to ignore me.Either you must be out of your mind or-else you must be deaf and dumb."saying so, he went back to his post and continued watching the person.


The monk at the shrine,who had been noticing all this,summoned the man and asked him,"What do you think of the person outside the shrine now?"


"I still feel he is a total waste and such lazy people should not be encouraged",said the man.

'Silence is golden'

Now, the monk said,"He is the chief priest of the shrine.
He teaches people about the importance of silence.


I have been watching your activities from the morning.You have called me a 'stupid'.
You have called our teacher  'a total waste',lazy man','mad man' and what not.


All this harsh and impulsive behavior has earned you no goodness or peace.
So, follow the path of silence whenever you can and you will be closer to God everyday.


Realizing his folly, he asked for forgiveness from the monk and the chief priest and set out on his way.


He was a changed man now.


All his ego had melted away and he decided to talk only when it is absolutely necessary.

'Passionately yours'

I love you
but,how to tell you?
I thought I will pen it
but, how to begin it?

Mmmmm...Mmmmm...

You're a lovely rose,
but,don't roses wither away?
You're face is a bright sunflower,
but,don't they turn away?

I don't like these flowers,
they are not charming as you.
They don't have characters,
that always adorn you.

Then what shall I write,
to describe you?
Whatever I write,
it does not equal you.

So, I made a decision,
of meeting you.
To tell you the passion
and pain of loving you.

Will you my dearest of dear,
adorn my love for you?
Or will you like the roses,
prick the hand that admires you?

Short story-'Working deliveries'

Rabi and Sanya were a working couple.They were holding good positions in their respective offices.They not only cherished the monetary benefit that it brought them but, also the power and respect it gave them.


Everything seemed fine till sanya got pregnant.It was an unexpected pregnancy and sanya did not want to have the child.


Both rabi and sanya's parents promised to help them in bringing up the child.Though, half-heartedly, Sanya agreed to have the kid , she was concerned about her career .She managed to attend office till the due date.Finally, she delivered the baby.


It was a baby boy and they named him Kalil.


Sanya was back to office once her maternity holidays were over and Kalil was handed over to Sanya's parents.

Kalil grew up with his parents' parents-sometimes Sanya's sometimes Rabi's.Though Kalil was not lonely,he always missed his parents.But, his parents were very busy with their careers and were left with no energy for him in the evenings.


Days rolled by and Kalil grew up .


Rabi and Sanya had always bought him the finest of toys and clothes.He studied in the best school in town.
So, as usual they admitted him into one of the finest colleges.


By the time Kalil finished college, his grandparents had passed away one after the other.


It was time for Rabi's retirment too.He thought,"I can relax now,after all the years of toiling."


But, we cannot decide our fate.


Kalil fell in love with a girl named Banu,in college, and soon they got married.


Both Kalil and Banu were top ranking students so, they were selected into prime companies for employment.Their offices were close to each other,so Kalil dropped her at office everyday.


By this time,Sanya had retired from service.She was at home and so, she took it upon herself to run the house.Rabi also pitched in,now and then, to help her.


One night when Rabi and Sanya were alone,Rabi asked,"What about our world trip plans?We have retired,our son earns well and we have a sound finance now.Why don't we talk about this to Kalil?"


To this Sanya retorted,"How can we go?Both of them go for jobs and we are left to do all the care- taking of the house.Sometimes, I think we should move out and stay alone.Then we can go ahead with all our plans."


Meanwhile,Banu became pregnant and she delivered a beautiful baby girl on the due date .Three months flew away so fast and again it was time for Banu to join office.


Sanya and Rabi were more worried than happy,about their grand-daughter.


 Sanya told Rabi," If Banu joins office, bringing up the child will become our responsibility.We are weak now and taking care of an infant calls for lot of work.I am scared that Kalil will expect us to help them grow the child."Saying so, Sanya began to cry.


Rabi was scared too but, they were defenceless against their son.They had left him with Sanya's parents when he was just an infant.Sanya or Rabi had not shown interest in playing or talking to Kalil.


They were more into driving their careers up the charts and had not bothered about their relationship with their son, which was going down the drain.


With these thoughts Sanya and Rabi went to sleep.


It was the next day and all of them were having their breakfast.
Kalil began to speak."Mom and Dad,we wanted to tell you both about a decision we have taken."


Just as Kalil said this, all the thoughts of the previous night rushed through the minds of Sanya and Rabi.


Kalil continued,"Banu and I think it is more important that she takes care of the child, than earn money, at this juncture. If she joins office now,she will have to sacrifice all her precious time with the child.
I don't want my child to suffer like how I did.I missed dad and you in all the confusing and difficult stages as a child.


                         Secondly,dad and you are old now.You sometimes find it difficult to manage the household.We don't want to burden you additionally by asking you both to attend to our child.
I have seen how many difficulties my grandparents went through to take care of me. I don't want you to suffer in the same way."


Sanya and Rabi felt very guilty for having been very selfish in their life and for having been indifferent to the hardships of their parents and of Kalil.They realized their mistake ,when they are at the same threshold of life as their parents had been, years back.


They were very proud of their son for being sensitive of their plight.But, they cannot give back all the yester years in his life ,which he has lost,missing them.


But, they can surely do something and thats what they did.
They decided to stall all plans for their world trip.


They will stay with Kalil and his family and give them all the time and support that they had missed to give him before.


Medical note:

 According to developmental neurology(a science that studies the growth of a child), a mother should  take care of her child till it is 5 years old or atleast till it is 3 years old.This helps to give a strong physical and mental basis for the child for the rest of its life.It will also give a strong bonding between the mother and child.


The emotional component of a child is as important as its body.So,spending time to help the child grow emotionally is equally important spending time to help him grow physically. It is not very difficult-just listen to the child and believe in him.